GAL going well. Need help with LRT and 180

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Sandi2: Thanks for your dose of medicine.

I can honestly say I am ready for her to go. She is talking about the end of May. And I'm very done with the limbo - I would like to believe my actions are staying consistent. I'm living my life, taking care of the kids, house, etc. I don't ask her for her input on most things - I just go ahead.

I have not asked much about her life in long while. I've set up family counseling for the kids and I. I have let her know, I'm ready for her to go. I'm not "detached" in the DB sense of the word - but I am more distanced.

I've stopped inviting her out with the kids and I. I'm sure she felt some "loss" today as we were out a family wedding and I had arranged some photos of the kids and I.

I've quit trying to work with her on the budget, kids activities, etc. I'll just wait for the lawyers to do it for me.

I have been pursing a little. But, I've kinda enjoyed it as she squirms-when I talk about S-X, or make her rub cream on me, kiss me.

I'm really am done with the limbo and her cake eating. Also, when I told her I'm not running a boarding house and I won't clean up after her, etc she has started "cleaning up" her act and taking on a bit more of the house work.

I would like a real marriage. Maybe once she feels some loss, i.e. moves out and I put down some firm rules - e.g. you just can't show up, etc.

Besides, my eldest is gonna murder her before she even gets a chance to move out.