Thank you all for your posts. Job, I don't understand what you mean by "when they stop in mid-crisis...". Can you please explain to me?
Cadet, thank you for all that. I've been reading it for weeks now and it's really helpful. I wish I found it earlier. Would have avoided a few mistakes...
Ciluzen, I'm sorry about what you are going through. I'm not ready to file for divorce yet and hoping my H won't do it either. I read your latest thread and it seems you are doing fine. Keep it up! I also sacrificed a lot for my H and the family. Have no regrets but feel like I have much more time for myself since he's gone. kids comment on how peaceful and calm the house is (my H is very nervous type). Just like you, I finally lost the last few kilos of "baby weight" (my baby is 13 so you understand...). I feel much better about myself but then from time to time I get very sad about the family being destroyed and me being alone. And also angry with him. I'm not saying I was a perfect wife and made no mistakes but the fact that we cannot work on the marriage because of his affairs makes me angry. I'm trying no contact now. Though I will have to see him in therapy next week. Not looking forward to it but I'm afraid that if I cancel he will have one more thing to use against me. We are supposed to go for long holidays this summer - 3.5 weeks together! Still hesitating if I should go but we promised it to the kids more than a year ago and big part of it is booked and paid for already. Well, I still have 2 months to think about it... Good luck with your studies, I hope all will turn out well for you! Sometimes I think I would be better off w/o him but I just don't want to give up on us yet.