Have you read about the stockdale paradox? Sort of like be prepared for the worst but hope for the best. Most of us find our way here when our M are in dire straits. The thing is that if we don't even try, then there wouldn't even be a fighting chance.
I believe that many was/wws regret their choices, usually years down the road. But even if they do regret their choices, they may not do anything about it. Or we would have moved on.
I don't know if it makes you feel better or worse but I have read here of DBers who R 2 to 7 years post BD, and even D. Not many but it happens.
And though they say most Wws don't end up marrying their APs, there are those who do.
I don't know how to feel about all these numbers since I really don't know which category I/xh will fall into.
Which is why I finally understand why they say here that you have to save yourself first and to work on yourself. That's the only thing that is really within our control.
You are doing great and getting back the control of your life.
I agree that it [censored] though and I wish that we didn't have to go through all this pain.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
