Hey, Phoebe! I've been following your posts a lot.
I'm a data person, as well, but in this case I guess I just don't care. I want to have and keep that .00001% chance, that door cracked open, hope alive. I believe I'm dealing with a MLCer, so I post over there more often now, and I realize its a long, long road. But to me, he's still worth it. I guess you give up when YOU decide your S no longer is worth it. No data can actually show you that, or show how many are back together unhappy, never left M and just putting up for the sake of convenience, or happily living together but not renewing vows.
I love that you are enjoying the hiking meetups. Those were a lifesaver for me. I'm an introvert by nature and those meetups in the early days kept me busy, helped my PMA, and garnered me a few amazing friends (my "friends" were all connected to my outgoing, friendly H and were gone as soon as he was). There are great people you will meet, and some you will just click with. You will form a IRL support group (system?) in no time. Keep that up, summer is here!
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
