I know this is hard for you. I just wanted to leave you with a couple things to think about. What if H is considering moving back but has NO interest in a M with you ever again? How would you feel about him living there? How would you feel if one day you had to see him and OW?
I know you are interested in a friendship and rebuilding, but I think what you ultimately want is a M with this man. No one can gauruntee that a friendship will lead to a M. None of us. I just want you to think--as painful as it is--what it may be like with the daily reminder that this man has left you and hurt you. Because by having him there next to you, this could very well be, and appears to be, what is going to happen. I know you don't want to hear that, but he has already told you.
You also very much want to show him your changes. How much can a person change in 5 weeks? Honestly, I have seen the same thing in your posts over the last couple weeks, and that is that you want to show him your changes, you want to end the no-contact, and you want a friendship or any R, but only in hopes it will lead to him coming back.
I would love to see that your changes are for you and YOU only. This takes time for all of us. Plus, you deserve a man that truly appreciates you and who you are, not one that you have to "show" this to. I think you deserve better than that. I would love to read more about what you are doing to move on without him and less about how you can win him back. I think that will serve you well however this turns out.
Sorry for the 2*4. I just fear that your hopes for him moving back are more to win him back. Most people agree it's not healthy to live next door to their ex--it's a painful reminder of a person that hurt you and left you. And I don't think its healthy and normal to want to be friends right away. I think it can also lead to him losing respect for you.
-Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
