What Should I be doing 3

[Coconut]

Saw WW this morning, as she was getting ready to go to fire acadamy, I told her that if she has decided that she is not willing to withdraw from academy, I would like to Tal to S16 tonight, because I don't want to tell him right before I leave. My plan is to go stay at moms next weekend if she doesn't withdraw... She said that we need to have discussion before talking to S and she stated that she only has 2 1/2 months of academy left (delaying) and why can't we wait til then to work something out (more of a statement than question).

If she says she will withdraw, do I say something like "I understand that it was a very difficult decision for you to do that, it shows me that you are committed to working on us"? Also, at that point do I give space, validate and continue with GAL alone or invite her to join?

If she says NO, my plan is to tell the truth about A (but not details) to my mother, and my MIL. I want to tell my S16 and OM S, but I'm not sure if that is the right thing to do, what do you think?