I think she will put some pressure on the OM, to see what he says. She may discover that he felt safe to play around as long as she was in a M, however, if she tells him her H is going to divorce her........reality may start hitting this OM and he'll realize she wants more from him. Then see how fast he starts to backpedal.
I'm still reading DR and just staying active on forums while taking small breaks from the book, but I'm wondering if this is a similar situation my WW is in. I know she had an EA with OM at work, and he is in a M as well... She siezed contact with him about 3 weeks ago and then all the sudden I found 3-4 texts she she to him (2-3 nights after she mentioned D to me), and OM only responded once...
I feel like once she broke it off with him, he started thinking about the situation and his M's security. She knows I'm a techie nut and I can grab msg's off her phone and she might have told him at the first break off, about it... I know that doesn't change anything about my WW's emotional confusion, but if she continues to reach OM and he pulls away, that's got to work in my favor at least a little bit, right?
to the OP, hang in there, and I know it's hard NOT to say those things that you 'think' could be helping the situation, especially if they are true, raw emotions and thoughts on her beauty, but stick with the plan.
I was looking through some photos at my parents house just yesterday that my WW was in, and my god, I saw the beauty in her that I haven't seen in a long time. I think, first, it's important not to fall immediately back into showing those reconnections, but secondly, the more distance allowed, the more room those lost feelings can become ongoing and not just temporary pleasure.
