Your h's treatment says more about him than it says about you. To say that he liked the Dr because the Dr put you in your place, that really wasn't very nice.
Do all these memories matter? They will not change your h's decision to move ahead with the divorce but it will help see your h as a person with warts and all.
My xh relished the fact that my Ls weren't very competent and goaded about the fact. I guess going through D does bring out the worst in most Waw/wws?
You are tough. And you come across as a calm and measured person.
Please take good care of yourself. It really is a trying time. Your boys need you. You need you.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.