Bee, I'm very sorry that you are here. From your recent posting, it sounds like your h never completed his crisis. If that is the case, he will need to finish it up and usually when they stop in mid-crisis, the second time around is usually worse than at the beginning.
My advice is to leave him alone, only contact him in an emergency and keep to safe topics. Keep your focus on your bank accounts and credit cards. If you have joint accounts, separate them so that you are only having to take care of yours.
Try to keep the focus on you and your children. I know it's difficult and you have a lot going on...but the more you leave him alone, the better. Should you still be hoping? There is always hope in any situation and only you can decide when you've had enough. For now, live your life as if he's not coming back.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
