ofp, you will have time to deal with all of these incredibly intense, and sometimes debilitating feelings. please do not think that i want you to bypass that. facing those fears, disappointment, hurts and confusion is part of your maturation...your journey.
I hope you are able to get out and do your long awaited activity, if not I hope you find something to do to enjoy your weekend.
last thing, i wanted to mention to you...this is an observation of wisdom from others that I wanted to bring up to you...not using your kids as info gatherers or to discuss thier mom with.
I really hope that some one who is more experienced with that aspect of separation csn chime in with experience.
i will be away for the weekend...so i will have my fingers crossed for you.