So I plan on saying this at the last minute..."i have decided that Id rather spend the day by myself or with our S. You can do what you want, you can take him with or leave him with me but I do not feel like going anywhere."

I must buy something small so that our S can give it to her for her bday, from him.

Also realised that the balance of power financially is hers. I need to wrestle it back. I asked for a wire transfer 3 hours ago and am yet to get a reply to call, text or email. I earn double what she does but will correct it by the end of the month. She's definitely upset that I did not want to give off, and of the prospect that she's not going to get any (from me) for her bday wknd.

But that's life hey.

Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.