Dear all, Though a newcomer I think I read everything that is on this site in the past few months and it's helping. Now I would like to add my story and see what advice (or maybe hope?) you can give me. My husband is experiencing MLC for several years now. 2 years ago I learnt about his affair with a co-worker (he was her boss). We ageed he'll put an end to it and we'll work on our marriage. Since he continued privately talking to her, we had many fights, mostly about his lies and then he started another EA, again he's her boss and again she's almost 20 years younger. Last September his uncle passed away which was a big shock for my husband, also because the uncle was there for him during his childhood when parents were preoccupied with my sister in law who is psychotic and therefore needs constant attention and help. Since September he wanted to leave, life is short, he made a mistake but it doesn't mean he needs to stay in bad marriage etc. The classic I love you but not romantically. You deserve someone who will love you better... He goes on business trips often and very often with the AP. Now I know that the affair is also physical. My husband is unstable, with his problems from childhood and very low self confidence he feels he's not enough for me. I'm very strong, balanced and very self confident person ( what he calls arrogant), very successful in my carreer. He is successful in his career too but now we are at the same level and he doesn't seem to be happy about it. Anyway, after very nice Christmas holidays we came back home decided we will give it one last try but the next morning he went for business trip with AP and since then it was really bad. I asked him to move out for a short period of time to restore myself. Now he's away for 3 months and is not planning to come back. He wants a divorce, divide property, is willing to give me more because he wants nothing to have with me "after final bye-bye". We have two kids, teenagers who live with me. They don't have very close relationship because my husband is very closed and reserved person. He has no friends. Only his muse. He still has my picture on his phone so when he opens the phone everyone can see it. He is still wearing the wedding ring. Last week in therapy he said that he only continues with it to tell me in front of 3rd person how I destroyed the marriage. Afterwards he told me that he has no added value for me that I don't need him, I'm able to do everything by myself. I always thought I would never tolerate infidelity. But here I am, hoping that my husband will get out of this phase and will come back. My family means all to me. Im just not sure after all the things he said, is it possible he'll ever come back? He changed so much I don't recognise him. Though it makes it easier to distance myself from him. I followed him to a country where we have no family. I have some friends but mostly work related. Feel alone though my boys are wonderful but I miss a partner to talk to, e-mail to during the day or share something over SMS. Should I be still hoping?
