I just came up with an analogy.... Tying together the pieces of my puzzle. My W has a mold made for me... the mold is actually her abusive father. She keeps trying to force me into that mold, into the label. She saw a trait here or there that sounded like her father, close enough to stuff me into the mold. But I didn't fit the mold. No matter how hard she tried.

This why when S11 told her I'm not blaming her, she cried... Cuz I don't fit the mold. She wants me to fit to justify her leaving me. It causes confusion.

Part of what prompted this, reading about MLC and the confusion.... Dang it, I'm trying to stuff her into a mold? Anyway, the confusion is there. I hear it from my kids.

Ok, I'm gonna stop now before Zepher gets the 2x4 out again...