Building my life...

[Mozza]

I see why you are concerned for your kids, but I'm worried by all the pain I read between the lines. Your X is living her life and you seem to take it personally, as if she owed you something. Or maybe I misread it and you continue being hurt by her lies and deception.

Her buying a house should make her stable for a while, which is good news for you. And her caring about the education of the kids, be it collateral to her own plans, is good too. And she seems to phrase her email as carefully as any flawed human can. It would be good for you to reply within a reasonable time. With my STBX, we have an agreement that we respond within 72 hours.

By the way, I see no reason why you would discuss this with her:

I also feel that I need to confront her, explain the past episodes I've had with the kids (my S & D talking about us all being together on multiple different occasions). Talk about how we need to discuss the OM and his role in her life as the kids repeatedly discuss it.

My D4 also talks about her parents getting back together. Why would I bring it up with STBX? To make her feel bad? How does that benefit my kids? Or me, for that matter? And I can't imagine your X likes the idea of discussing "OM and his role in her life" with you. In my sitch, OM has been good to the kids, as far as I know, and unless he does something wrong, I've no control over it and I don't try to. Anyway, what worries me most is that you feel the urge to have these discussions with her. You seem to hold so much pain and resentment still.

I'll agree with Gmum: Have you been looking around?

Thanks for the updates by the way and continue to repeat yourself if that's what's going on. You can be honest with us, bunch of strangers. ;-)