Jzmill, I understand how emotionally and mentally draining this is, I don't have very good patience which even makes it worse... If you stay with him your more likely to push, and that would make the sitch worse, so don't worry about it being obvious.
Also, I think the mod moved your thread to newcomers now, so you should start getting more responses..
Are you doing any GAL activities with other people? This is where I've been struggling but I believe has the most benefit for being happy..
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized