What Should I be doing 3

[Coconut]

Ok, so quick update...
W got distant 4/8/16...
Confirmed at least EA with kissing 5/5/16...

This morning I told WW that I cannot be in M with 3 people, and that if she is not willing to withdraw from volunteer firefighter gig that I will have to start separation and D process.. Sandi2 response to this is above.

In afternoon, W BFF called me, said that she had 1 hr conversation with W and advised me not to do anything rash, said W is conflicted on how to respond, and said she doesn't do good with ultimatums... BFF said WW doesn't seem like herself, and she wasn't able to talk any sense into her.. BFF upset that WW would do that to me, and can't believe I haven't blown it up to everyone, said W mentioned that I stopped waking her up and stopped making coffee.. BFF told her that she had the affair and she should be doing the work to repair M.. But it did not seem like anything was getting through.

W and son got home a few minutes ago, I was supposed to go to a friends B-Day party with her tonight, but after this morning I wasn't sure how WW felt about me going.. She said I want you to go but I can't deal with what you said this morning, I said that I understand your upset so I'll give you time to yourself.. Then I went and sat on couch watching tv... On the way out, I said to wife that she looked nice and I hope she has a good time, wife said that she was looking forward to spending a fun relaxing evening with me then I went and did this... That's all for now.

Ps- it is insane how spot on Sandi is with her explanations of WW..