Wife Leaving Me- Don't Know What to Do

[LiM]

I'm so sorry Chills. I know how much this hurts.
Your W has plenty of issues and she's got to figure that out for herself. Right now you need to focus on you. Detach, 180 and GAL. You've got your own issues to work on.
I get the sense from your description that she wants and needs a MAN. She needs someone to step up to the plate and be her protector and provider. I'm not trying to be mean or hurtful. I'm just responding based on what you wrote. I think its time for you to step up and be a strong, confident man. Someone she respects because clearly, she has no respect for you.
Personally, I think you need to dump her. Not because you want your M to be over but because thats what you need to do to SAVE your M. She doesnt value you as a MAN. You need to show her that you are one. I would call her out on her A and even kick her out of the house. I wouldnt tolerate this behavior. I didnt when I discovered my W was having an A. After I discovered my W was having an A, I took a week to decide what to do and what I wanted. Fortunately, I found the place and accepted all the help and advice it had to offer. I confronted my W and kicked her out. I fought for my M the entire time even when she didnt see it. I filed for D when I discovered the A was still going on 3 months later. Things changed for me after that. In those 3 months, I continued to work on all my issues and I've become a completely different person from who I've always been. And my W has seen those changes. She now respects me and appreciates all the things I did to fight for us, when she didnt deserve it and when she didnt even know I was doing it.
If you dont have the book, get it and read it. You need to go dark and deploy the LRT. Start working on your issues. Emotionally dump her and start figuring out what your life looks like without her. THIS is how you save your M.
There will be a lot of pain. You are devastated and no one should be treated this way. Its time for you to grow a pair and become a man that she will respect. Become the man that only a fool would leave.