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[cbtdad]

Wow Acc!!
Yes, clearly you have been through this before. And that was brutally honest and I appreciate it. Did you the first page of my thread? The one were she was texting her friend that's shes not sure she ever loved me since the last time. And that she is scared to leave and to stay.
We have a 6 year old(guess I need to update my signature. lol)
So yes what you are suggesting is exactly what I have thought about doing. The only reason I haven't is because of our 6 year old.
I'm so torn myself, because you are right, I see the writing on the wall and know it. I know even if this works now and something doesn't drastically change then we are just delaying the inevitable. Both of us are. The only reason I have hope is because I/we have been happy during these 3 years at times when things are working well. I just think this time it's built up so much in us that it's really tough to turn that corner.
I talked with my IC about this yesterday. I'm giving it through June basically. I'm going to work on me. If I see some changes in her along the way then we will go from there. But if we still have the dynamic we have now, then I am leaving. That's plan
You are also correct about wanting me to say good bye so she doesn't have to. That's why Ive said some of the things I said last week. It's because I knew how she was feeling and I figured if I said it at the time it might actually allow her to me instead of the just unknown
All I'm gonna do from here on out is detach best I can and continue to improve me.