The OFP, the horrible things she said to get it, you have no idea what that does to a guy's self esteem.
I feel for you. I've been through the wringer with my wife. At first she said I was a psychopath. The MC put a stop to that. Then, I was a narcissist. I asked her if a narcissist would be a good dad (she says I'm an awesome dad). She said the reason I was a good dad was because I wanted everyone to see that I'm good dad so that they'd shower me with accolades. Then, I asked her who "everyone" is because not many people really see me being a good dad (it's not like being a good dad is a public spectacle). She came up with some pile of BS answer and then I gave up.
So, the point of that is you're not in this alone.
OMG, that's sounds way too familiar! My W when she accused me of being a narcissist, said that I act differently around others to fake being a good guy. Are some people prewired with this script?
Deflecting blame away from themselves... The true narcissist behavior?
