Don't beat yourself up about pursuing and R talk. Stop doing what isn't working (R talk and pursuing) and remind yourself of what is working and do more of that...right?!
Is the photographer at the family wedding or a separate appointment? If at the family wedding, she won't be there so not an issue. If it is separate, can you reschedule it? You mentioned that you were in "hot pursuit" and I'm afraid the family photo sessions would be more of what isn't working, whether she is in it or not.
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