GAL going well. Need help with LRT and 180

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Well - overconfidence hit again.

I basically tried to force her into saying she would stay, had 30 min of R talk and pursued for 45 min. It all burst into flames as she told me that after 20 years I should know what she wants and I should have the confidence to support her and be the kind of husband she wants. Then she would stay.

So I put my tail between my legs and retreated. This morning I was in hot pursuit as I had her rub cream on my shoulders, kiss me good morning and goodbye.

So I'm dusting off myself off and we will see where the chips will fall. As I've said before, I'm mentally and emotionally ready for her to go. So I don't mind coloring outside of the lines a little. Further, she's already made arrangements to move out so I'm really in a not bad spot.

I'm feeling good but still obsessing too much about this. We have a family wedding to go to on Sat. I wonder if she will feel the "loss" as I pack the kids up and go. I'd also planned to have a photographer do some family photos before we go. Should I let her be in the pix or should I hold a hard line and say - sorry it's for the stayers not the leavers?

Any thoughts out there? Come on team help me out.