New here need support

[poschan]

tough day today...just can't seem to get out of the rut. lot's of tears and very tired. I need to get it together for d7. I don't know how i'm going to be able to tell her of our impending separation/D.

[SH_]

Poschan,

Let the emotions flow. Stay in the moment and be kind to yourself. It is normal at this stage. Review the video by MWD for ideas to share with your D7. DB for yourself. GAL is very important. It takes your mind and focuses on other things . Get out and expand your social circle. You need to have a place to talk and focus on other things.
Focus on D7 when you can and let the joy of your time together flow in you.

Keep posting for feedback and follow others so you can see what your journey can be further down the road. You got this.

CWOL,

Her L proposed the parenting schedule you have. My L is very pro co parenting and focused on that aspect and a reason I went with him. My WAW saw the value in it so it is a great one as far as having to do it.

[poschan]

Thanks SadHub. Any threads you would have me look at?

[CWOL]

That sounds like a good plan, it does double the swaps though and makes practices and other things that are set on days of the week tough.
I'll bring it up to WW and see what she thinks.

[Phoebe]

Poschan, I'd suggest that you to find a few active threads that you feel some connection to, post to them and keep up with them. Choose a mixture of R phases so you can see various perspectives. It really does help, and it keeps you from feeling too overwhelmed by looking at too many threads. I know when I first came here, I would get so overwhelmed by all the sadness in the stories that I could only visit every few days.

I stumbled into the mode of mainly sticking to a handful of threads so I could get to know the stories and the people behind them. It's helped me a great deal.

[poschan]

Thanks Phoebe. It is overwhelming for sure but it helps to see that I am not alone and some of the other circumstances could almost fit right with mine. The sadness is absolutely devastating lately.

[Phoebe]

I am sorry to say that I know that feeling only too well. I was absolutely devastated when my H disappeared. Now I see a psychologist, a grief counselor, am on SSRIs, and various other things, but the single greatest thing I have had is the passage of some time.

No, I'm sorry to say that time does not heal all wounds, but we do need time to heal. Healing doesn't just happen, so we have to work on it. A little bit every day.

Reach out in any way that you can right now - friends, family, Meetup groups, doctors, therapists, whomever. Do any and everything that you can to help yourself.

One of the better things I think I did was to acknowledge how much I was grieving and then to find myself a grief counselor. I also decided to stop fighting the sadness, or whatever emotion, when it came, and just let myself feel it and then let it pass on by. It helped me.

Poschan, remember your heart has been broken, but YOU are not.

[poschan]

Great advice Phoebe. Watching some funny shows with d7. Great to laugh with her and hear her laugh. It shouldn't have to be so hard and messy. I hope you have some peace and joy this weekend

[Phoebe]

You, too, Poschan!

Laughter is really good. That you are able to laugh right now, when life has thrown you such a curve ball is a really positive sign. You still have joy inside you.

[Phoebe]

You, too, Poschan!

Laughter is really good. That you are able to laugh right now, when life has thrown you such a curve ball is a really positive sign. You still have joy inside you.