I checked the messages going back 4 days, never checked the other friend, so it could be a diversion. Did see that she was never going to go out wednesday tho, the plan was always thursday.
I'm out tonight, slept an hour in the car but some red bulls will help me. Doing the same thing i did last week, supper and a movie by myself. Quite enjoyed it. Tomorrow i'm having a team build with the work. Dropping our S by my mother tomorrow night, taking 2 allergy tabs early afternoon which should prepare me for an okay nights sleep. Sunday going to church with my S and mother, taking WW to lunch for her bday, S going with sooo will make sure its not morantic.
This is so confusing, I guess i 180 on her when she really wants back in. Going to get home, spend time with our S, get done and get going.
Next week we're off to Vic Falls for 3 nights, I will need all the prep work to get me through. i want to stay off the forum whilst there, to see how i cope.
Thank you, as always.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
If she has physical sex with another person. I know that you just stated that the EA is worse and that we LBHs fob it off, but thats because we see the body as sacred. The mind is not...
I don't think I said it was worse, but for a female it can be just as serious, b/c of how the woman's emotions are wired within her. Most men tend to look at a PA as cheating, and do not place as much emphasis on an affair of the heart.
Don't misunderstand. It tears a woman apart to know her H has been physical with another woman. I'm just trying to let you know that EA's are serious to women (even though she lies and says they are just friends and it means nothing).
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Well she made the statement that everyone wants to know if I'm cheating on her since I just come and go. I ask who everyone is, and don't get an answer. One of the few good questions I actually ask.
Going to cut my hair tonight, shave, and run out in a rush again. Just to be by myself is what she thinks... Or would like to.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
Supper and a movie with yourself. Before I was married I'd do that on occasion.
The reminds me of a sports news blooper. Way back when Michael Jordan retired from basketball, one of the sportscasters asked him, "Now that you're retiring from team sports, what are you going to do, play with yourself?"
So, to all left-behind spouses, what will you do? What will you do?
I am focusing on me. I'm going to enjoy myself for myself. Sometimes i can't help myself, but i'm getting there darknes, I'm getting there.
Can't believe i'm typing this. My WW offered me "oral" before i go out this evening. I said, thx, but not interested.
She showed me video of house party she was at, and pics of club - she never drank cos she had to drive too. Really trying to earn my trust... Told her that I'm happy she's going out, I just find that the time that she comes home is inappropriate.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
So WW is still trying to reassure me with whatsapp. She plays a voice note from wayward BFF without vetting it first...
"So have you decided if you're going to invite your H with tomorrow night?"
I simply say "nice" in a somewhat surprised tone. I've already made plan for tomorrow night so will decline. I reckon i need about 6 months to focus on me!
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
Well she made the statement that everyone wants to know if I'm cheating on her since I just come and go. I ask who everyone is, and don't get an answer. One of the few good questions I actually ask.
This is projection. She's cheating on you, therefore she's accusing you of cheating on her. Straight from the wayward handbook. It doesn't really matter who "everyone" is because it's all in her mind. Since you're going out and "being sneaky," it's OK for her to do the same. Except that she's not being innocent and has developed feelings for another man... that she enjoys spending the entire night with while you stay home with your child. You're a live-in babysitter for her! Plus, you go out of your way to make her feel good about herself... and you'll even treat her for her birthday!! But you won't wish her happy mother's day... so confusing! This is why playing these games aren't helping to fix anything with your marriage. It's certainly not helping you to become someone only a fool would leave. Simply pushing her further and further away.
