Yes, I got the same suggestion from the coach for an apology letter as well. I didn't do it, it doesn't seem to be DB to me... It seems that it will be more clinging and pursuit than anything else. What do you guys think?
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
I don't know your sitch, but I do trust what the coaches have to say. They are much more skilled at successful DBing than we all are. If you're not sure what the letter should say, then call your coach again. Seriously. All our situations are unique. Remember, the coaches have successfully steered people through piecing and reconciling.
The people who are back in their marriages/relationships aren't on here giving us advice, they're living their lives.
Call your coach.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
just had a talk with WAW re finances and parenting plan - nothing written yet. she put a deposit on the rental home and said she wants to be in by June. I think it will lessen my anxiety with her not here but it will be hard not seeing my D7 every day. makes me sad even to think about it. I am trying to be strong and accept what is and move on with my life. I told her that I was trying to accept it so I could move on and I think she was somewhat surprised (her mannerisms) by me saying I wanted to move on with my life. today was another tough day. trying to work late and get a project finished by the due date. positive thoughts and prayers to all who are having difficult times
Me: 48 WAW:40 T:14yr M:12 yr d8 BD 2/2016 WAW moves out 6/05
You are doing well and you are going through a normal cycle of emotions. Let them come through and stay on the positive path that you are on and the healing will take place.
Keep you head up, be an awesome father for d7 and you will start to find that your time with her will be off the charts a joyous time. I miss my d5 the couple of days I don't see her, but the days I have her are like magic. Every little thing is just pure joy and love.
You will get through and find wonderful things on this challenging journey. Just be sure to pause and enjoy them in the moment.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
i'm having a hard time accepting what is...how can you be with someone for over 10 years and have young children, yet the WAW acts like there is nothing. Where is the commitment? Where has it all gone? truly unbelievable but I guess this is the world we live in; everything is disposable including people...
Me: 48 WAW:40 T:14yr M:12 yr d8 BD 2/2016 WAW moves out 6/05
My L proposed one that me and the WAW really liked as it ensures that d5 is never away more than 3 days in a row. It is Mon Tues with me, Wed Thurs with her, then Fri Sat Sun with me, then Mon Tue with her and so forth.
So just when I really start missing her I get to see her.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
SadHub, That might be a better schedule than my fixed 2-2-3. Right now we alternate only the weekends and WW always has him for Mon and Tue, which leaves one of us out for 5 days each time... I should talk to her about that. Only thing is it messes up the weekday schedules which are fixed right now.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
