Wow. Thank you all for the support and input!

I agree with you all, her circus her monkeys. I guess it was slightly backhanded to ask about finances (although I already know he is paying for the house or at least co-signing), but the most important question is if is he living there. However, I feel that maybe in a way both have something to do with the stability of the environment my children will be living in. Similarly, their work schedule is erratic, they both work for a company based in NYC and we live 6 hrs away.

I haven't done a background check, and will consider it. She refuses to speak of him in our very very limited interactions.


Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2
M - 8/2008
W is not happy - 1/2014
W wants D - 9/2014
W moved out - 11/2014
D filed - 1/23/2015
D'ed - 2/25/2015
Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015