Need some help from the DB community! Crunch Time!

[Ralph88]

In my eyes there is a difference between controlling and protective. You absolutely should offer an umbrella of protection over your family. You should try to guide them from dangers and people that are poisonous. There is nothing wrong with considering your family 'yours'. Controlling to me is telling them what to eat, wear, do etc.

But right now however she is not yours, because she is choosing to not be in your family.