Good for you coconut!!!
I know that had to be so difficult. But that is your boundary and you have to set it. There is no way for your marriage to move forward with a third person in the picture
Hang in there! Continue to do things for you and your S
It's extremely painful and hard. I understand completely
I was where you are as well before
But if you focus and yourself and S it will make it easier


M 37 W 30
S 7
Together 10 years
Married 9 years
BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day)
I moved to apartment 1/11/13
W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13
Peicing: 6/3/13
Reconciled: 7/2013
BD2: 4/20/16
still working on it