Out of In house S- Start of two homes (10)

[vise82]

hey just another day

W worked late, I picked up kids from school, fed them and took S7 to scouts. W came home and was telling me about her day. She was having problems with her lawyer wanting money to close on the house she bought. She doesn't have the money and thought the money was to come from the sale of our MR house. But she is getting bridge financing and closing before the MR house sells. Lawyer wants money now.

She tells me that she thought that buying the house was not meant to be because of all the problems that have popped up (caused by her, but I did not say that, Was tempted but STFU).

She tells her parents and problem solved they lent her the five thousand she needed to pay Lawyer. Her house is to close on the 19th this month.

So I listened and validated. I did not offer solutions, which was hard for me to hold back on.

The TV stopped working again after a power flicker and W just goes to the TV where I normally watch. I put the kids to bed and then I normally go to where W was now.

I chickened out and just stayed out of her way. I so wanted to go down there to watch TV with her and had a good reason to, but I avoided it.

I got stuff done on my side for my house, changing of address and starting of accounts for utilities and insurance.

W are greeting each other now in the mornings. I have been helping a little with kids lunches and W it thanking me. She helped me with changing over the laundry yesterday. (I just realized I didn't thank her)

So with little bits here and there we are nicer to each other. Just noticing the changing dynamic. But when we are moving out in a couple of weeks I can see why.

I think back and I should have just gotten out of her way long ago. It was not the best thing to do, keeping W in house S when she wanted out.

So if your reading this and you are stopping your W, just get out of the way.

I keep going back to the light house analogy. Not matter what happens I am the lighthouse. Thing on my side are going as planned with no mess up so far. Stuff she as been trying to do has been nothing but problems and stress for her.

She has run out of money and has a house to fill up with furniture and her new credit card are saving her but that wont last. Right now she is just trying to keep her head above water. I have lived on my own before. She has not. I am picturing my self as that light house.