Mystery solved. Kid admitted to pulling her own hair. I have talked to her counsellor and her counsellor has suggested that I look for a psychiatrist for her. Her talk about self- hurt and her pulling of her hair are all shouts for help.
I wondered if I should tell xh about the issue. I texted him a very simple text. I told him that kid admitted to pulling her hair out and her counsellor has suggested getting a psychiatrist. To the point. If he wants to see it as guilt-tripping, that really is his issue.
He's the father. He should know what's happening.
I am thinking that I should take up my counsellor's suggestion of joint counselling with the xh to talk about kid's issues.
As much as I love the xfil and am grateful for his past help, I think he has to stop using kid as a go-between. Whatever he wants to do with kid should go through me, not kid.
He told kid that TP and XH were just friends. And kid sent me an impassioned text on his phone asking me to believe her. All these just keep giving kid hope that xh will come back to us.
I don't know what game they are playing now. And I am very tired.
Should I talk to x-fil first before xh? Since x fil is the source of contention now, I am thinking that I should talk to him first.
They are running me and kid down. I am so tired. Why are they so selfish and cruel? Are they trying to force me into playing hardball and keeping to the legal agreement?
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
