I hope that everyone has recovered from being sick and looking forward to the weekend.

I think that when you treat your w as a friend and keep to safe topics, such as the children and not have expectations, she tends to warm up a bit towards you. I would continue as you have been and keep those expectations very low, almost to zero. Can you treat her as a friend and not expect her to act like the old wife? If you can do that, she may very well warm up even more towards you and the family.

Keep up the good work!

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.