Babe, Of course you don't get it. You aren't the one in crisis and they do things that don't appear to be rational to us, but rational to them. Your question is not strange because we have discussed this topic a few times here about how they appear to reconnect w/family members that they've not had much to do w/for many years over. Yes, they appear to be happy family members in the photos and at gatherings, but no one knows if that is true or not...only they know for sure. So, please don't assume anything when it comes to a person in crisis.
What you have seen is very normal for the MLCer. When they go back in time, they reconnect w/family members and that's where they have to be at that time in order to figure out what happened. They have to go back there, learn about themselves and those around them in order to better understand and accept that they weren't at fault for what happened to them.
Babe, it's not easy for them during the crisis and like I have pointed out many times...they HAVE to go back to the time where they were emotionally stunted in order to hopefully grow up after facing their fears/demons, accepting what they couldn't and still can't change in the past and then start moving forward to grow up. Some will talk to their parents about the situation during this replay time and others won't because the person or persons who treated them poorly have passed on. Those who have parents or authority figures that have passed on may be lost for a long time and may not come out of the crisis as mature individuals and some will seek counseling...it all depends upon the individual and how they cope w/their crisis. No one knows how each person will deal w/their crisis...all we can do is hope and pray for them.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
