Well done 2times2many, you have been amazing in dealing with everything. Can I also add that it sounds like a positive to me the fact that your H is respecting your opinion regarding his brother and the business? Maybe your BIL's interfering will have the opposite effect to the one he wanted (I feel Like he was trying to push your H further away?)
I hope there will be loads more baby steps on your H's part.
"There's nothing sadder than a conman conning himself"
“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask "What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, What if you fly?”
