Hi Mahhhty, looking at your post and the timescale for your D etc and the questions you'd like answers too....I'm thinking - she's over a year past D, why would any of those things be any of your business? (Forgive any bluntness - but that's what I thought.) To me it sounds like a reasonable move for the kids, and the Q's sound more about your own difficult feelings about what she is doing - which are of course understandable.
I know the whole OM thing is difficult, but I think at this stage she gets to choose the who's and how's of things WRT the kids and her current partner. And unless there is something plainly unsuitable about him (drug use, child sex offender etc...) I don't really think you get to have a say or could insist on having questions answered.
I think it may be more of a case of accepting that she is making new choices about her life now and working through your own feelings about that with your IC.
JMHO of course and I hope this helps x
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