WAW moved out, spewing anger, trying to detach

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Thank you SadSara. It is really a different perspective.

Tonight she called and discussed some adjustments with the time with d5. All was well, because I was open to the adjustments.
Then I asked when and where to meet for the paperwork. She then said you are supposed to print it and bring it to me.
Weird how just several hours earlier as she started to freak out, she said she would print it and get it to me. Weird how she can't remember the conversations we have.
Then she says, be sure to change the amount because I just sent you a text showing the value of the car. She says she does not think she could get even that much for it. The car is less than 2 years old, in perfect condition. Weird how her texts show higher than she is stating it needs to be at. And it is showing trade in value. Not re sale value. I mention this and advise that even on Craig's list they are selling higher than blue book.

This is where the fun starts. She then starts again with her name calling and accusations and now she will contact her lawyer to contact my lawyer. I tell her that sounds good. She then starts again to call me names and rant. I simply say, have a good evening and end the call.

I am smiling right now, but my heart hurts because I would never have guessed in a million years that my W of over 19 years would have turned into what I see now. How much anger and hurt feelings have been harbored over the years. How many other influences have helped convince her that I am the sole source of all of her pain and unhappiness?

But for now, her circus, her monkeys.

Phoebe, thank you for you support. I am going to go back and read some and see what it was for me just a few short months ago. The roller coaster still has its ups and downs, but the peaks and valleys are not so up or down now. Still a ways to go, but seeing markers certainly is a good way to see forward progress.

Painter, I think you are very correct. It is tricky as she avoids all contact from me except when picking up my d. Last week showed me how crazy it is. Today fortunately my d was outside when I asked. At this point my d's are seeing tension with her regardless.
D17 shared with me a rant she went on this morning after I dropped them off. When I was there she asked if I had made a lunch for her. I said no, because she had been eating school lunch. WAW responded that she was out of money on the lunch account. I said, oh I did not know that. WAW then went into the other room. I hugged my girls and left. I guess after I left WAW came back in and asked if I left $5. D17 replied no, and asked why. WAW then ranted on about why didn't I and other things. D17 said that she asked her mom, did you ask him to? WAW did not response, but the mumbled and grumbled all morning.

I can't win for losing, but I am seeing it as a child throwing a temper tantrum. There is no rhyme nor reason and I am now seeing this so clearly. The harder that I have tried to help or get out of the way or... Well there is no winning for losing with her now and I am just trying to let it slide off. It really is just simply bizarre and I am seeing it for what it is now and not absorbing the nastiness of the words anymore.