the problem in our marriage was sex, lack of it (for him). We had sex frequently, just not frequently enough for him. So he left because he was unhappy, and to quote him "he's gonna find what makes him happy". Looking back, he's right. I didn't want to be intimate with him because he wasn't that nice to me. Never physically abusive, but angry.

Tonight he told me he's not ready to file for divorce and doesn't want me to either. But he doesn't know what he wants. Nothing has changed in the past five months that he's been gone, so what are we waiting for?! I can't live like this, in limbo and not knowing what's next.


Me: 37
Husband: 35
Married 5 years, together 13
Daughter - 1
Bomb dropped - 12/28/2015
He's moving out (officially) - 4/15/2016
EA confirmed 6/1/16
PA confirmed 8/1/16