Oh, as to Juju's question about accepting loss as part of the journey, all I can say is some things can't be replaced. I will never have the marriage I wanted or believed in. "You don't get a second chance, life is no Nintendo game".
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Sorry Zeus. I didn't mean to make peace with loss of your marriage or time with children. I couldn't do that.
I meant peace with not having a future relationship that endures and accepting that loss.
That's what I thought you meant by your description of preparing to take a shot during a competition....That you would mentally be at peace with that failure first before you actually took the chance at a shot.
Maybe I misunderstood or am having trouble wording.
