11 more days. Tomorrow she has an adoption event with the dog rescue group she volunteers with. She asked me if wanted to go. Typically I would go. But this time, I told her I had stuff to do around the house. I need to clean the gutters and mow the yard anyways. I think this will be the first time I haven't been with her.
We used to email each other back and forth at work. We hadn't done that for a couple weeks now. I have outlook set so when she emails it flashes. Occasionally I catch myself looking at the icon expecting, wanting, hoping it to flash. I had all of our emails saved in folder, I went through and deleted them yesterday.
M:36 W:31 D:12 M: 8/9/10 ILYBNILWY/"want space": 2/14-ish/16 W moved out 5/24/16.
It gets better. My WW use to text and call me from work daily. That stopped 6 months ago. She also would call and text me after the BD. That last a few weeks.. Time flys, things get easier. Work on you, stay busy, stay thinking of other things.
Ralph88 Me 40s W 30s, D5 D3 , M7 T9 2013 B drop 1, EA found 2016 B drop 2, EA/PA? 2/16 Physical Seperation 2/16 I filed for D 4/16 PA Confirmed
10 days to go. She's starting to pack up. I walk around the house and see my life being stuffed into boxes. Last night she was packing up the living room when I was wanting to go to bed. I was kind of agitated watching her pack so I said "I know you're in a hurry to leave but can this wait until the morning?"
She said "if i was in a hurry I wouldn't of waited this long"
In order to avoid any unneeded relationship talk and prevent me from pursuing, I walked out of the living room. But I don't understand. Is she second guessing?
I guess that's me trying to overanalyze her again. I need to go do yard work. So at least that will get me out of the house surrounded by my slowly disappearing life.
M:36 W:31 D:12 M: 8/9/10 ILYBNILWY/"want space": 2/14-ish/16 W moved out 5/24/16.
I doubt she's second guessing; she's put off moving out because its big step for her to take and its scary, but now she's ready.
Part of DBing is to do the unexpected. She expects you to try to delay her move. Don't do that (it's pursuing). Help her toward her goal. I bought my wife a bunch of boxes and packing material when she was moving out. It was a kind-and-gentle little push out the door. Show her that you'll be just fine (or maybe better) after she moves out.
i know i should be out GAL. But, the thing is, i have no desire too. all i really feel like doing is sitting here. i feel defeated and motivation-less. i just don't know how to get over this mental hurdle.
i've thought about joining the triangle divorce/separation group on meetup. but the thought of going to an unknown place and having to introduce myself to a group of unknown people, gives me hives.
M:36 W:31 D:12 M: 8/9/10 ILYBNILWY/"want space": 2/14-ish/16 W moved out 5/24/16.
I want to ask you, no, I want to strongly encourage you to go GAL. Right now it is very important that you do what is right, not what you feel. Your feeling will guide you down a path that has no benefit to you, nor any hope of a good future relationship.
Think about it this way. You have been in an accident that has left you with legs that are almost paralyzed. The doctor tells you that with physical therapy and a lot of hard work, that you may regain the use of your legs. What will you do?
You do what it takes to walk again even if you do not feel like it.
So please get up, take one step and GAL.
It really is the only thing you. An do right now. It won't be easy, it will make you uncomfortable, but the more you do it the stronger you will get.
Trust me, I speak from experience and know that it is the best way to proceed.
I send you my support and pray for you so please put in the effort and you will thank yourself later.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
