the road goes ever on and on...

[Painter]

I also told my H (before we got married), 'I only marry once'. I reminded him of that when he wanted to S. He said never wanted another D. But I guess my chances were 50/50 and his were more like 10/90 (with 4 previous M).

I've been thinking about Zues' statements about M being like prostitution - it always upsets me to hear that because it sounds like women are taking advantage of men - and I realized it's mostly men who seem to want it that way. These men - like my H - want free access to sex, a hot meal, a clean house and not have to deal with hassles. Like Donald Trump said, "I work hard at my job, I don't want to come home and have to work on my relationship, too."

This is probably exactly why most women initiate D - they don't want to live like that. They want companionship, quality time, etc. I didn't want all the stuff my H bought - I wanted us to spend the money on going away for a weekend instead. He wanted to be left alone (except when he didn't).