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Hi Cashew,

Welcome to the forums. Sorry you are here due to your situation but you will find support and advice from many in similar situations.

I will say yours is unique from many that I have followed, but there are still many similarities to others.

I would recommend a DB coach as they can assist you as you share specific details and they have worked with so many situations that they have experience that you may find invaluable.
Study cadets homework and DR until you are comfortable and can start to incorporate it. It is counter intuitive so it will take time and patience.
As cadet says, you have a gift of time, use it wisely.
Keep the focus on you as that is all you can control. Spend quality time with your kids, they need the love of a stable parent.

I lend you my support and will check Ina me lend advice where I can.