Cadet,

you know me, We are having a conversation, not an emotional affair. He's not hiding me from his GF, it's just kind of weird to talk in front of your present one. He may even tell her we spoke. There is no flame rekindling here. Ex's do talk once in a blue moon, even when they are with new partners. It doesn't make them "other people"

I'll never, ever ever ever ever ever be the OW. I'm sorry you see it that way.