Where are we?

[EDF]

Welcome Cashew! Definitely some positives in there.

I can't really weigh in on the big picture stuff, but my gut is saying to maybe not worry about initiating intimacy, especially if one of the things that was a part of the old man you're moving past was pressuring her into intimacy.

In fact, I wonder if you might want to try stopping initiating snuggling. If she initiates it, great; if she gives you an overture, be playful back a bit but keep it casual and light and see how she responds? That's what my phone coach recommended to me.

It's hard as hell because physical contact is something I really need... but one of the things I was having trouble with at first was when I would initiate contact I was always thinking "Is she enjoying this, or is she just giving in because it's easier and will make me leave her alone?" Once I detached more and left the ball in her court, the contact was much less often, but I knew she was choosing it and that helped my mindset a lot.