My story for what it's worth

[Ralph88]

I think since you are here, you want ur M to work. She doesn't want you, Hence you being here. You should know without a shadow of a doubt if she wants to make efforts to work on the marriage. It sounds like you are doing well. Do not trust her words and half actions. When I am unsure of 'signs' I ask myself two questions. 1. What would I do if I was her and wanted to repent, repair, apologize, and show that I wanted to commit to M. 2. What is the min I would accept from her, taking into consideration the answer to question 1. If I don't see that starting, I'm not buying it, and if and when I do, I would still slow roll it for weeks or months.. Earlier on in this mess, I said if she shows up at my place at a time we could be alone from kids, with a 6 pack and a bucket of chicken and some sincerity and resentment and an apology, I would allow a discussion. Guess what, that never happened, and things have changed a little in my answering if the questions.