Will reply to last couple posts in due time but have urgent matter at hand. W said she was shopping today at mall but found receipt (took photo) from local shop for 2 bottles of wine, chocolates and a small bottle of perfume. None of which is in the house. Also found work schedule (took photo) She claims she's working until 11pm this Friday but schedule says until 4pm. I so badly want to call her out but was digging through her purse after she was asleep to get this info. How do I handle this? I am fuming thru the roof! I don't think I can do this any more.
I found similar stuff - my W I believe has since started leaving her receipts at the office - nothing to be found anymore in her purse. The more you reveal, the more they hide and makes it more difficult to find out any real proof of an A - if you haven't gotten it yet.
What I did was log everything in a spreadsheet, it's best to confront with non-specifics vs. specifics, and only when you have sufficient evidence to confirm an A. I did the trickle confrontation and it was not healthy and she in return rewarded me with trickle truth (sarcasm).
If I were to do it again, I would have gotten everything up front as quickly as possible - as much as I could and then confront with non-specific - I held back as I was in denial and didn't want to compromise her privacy and only randomly looked, but this only made the process longer (6 months) and probably allowed her to grow closer to him as she felt she was constantly being watched.
Me: 40 W: 45 T: 13, M: 11 1 D: 9
Suspect A 6/15 ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16 EA/PA Discovered 3/16 EA admitted 3/16 W Moved out 4/16 W opens R talk and says A over 1/17
