Thx Ralph and darknes and dream. So you are saying that I need to put my head in the sand, give her space to decide if she wants to cheat. It is her choice.

All that I'm doing is pushing her away. I'm doubting that I have even a little emotional strength to accomplish the above. I think that I mustn't even chat to her at all, cos I just end up putting my foot in it.

I know that I need the space. I like it when I have the space. I don't like it when she has the space.

Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.