So here is the outcome, and I can move forward...

She replies - I really don't know what i want to be honest with you and this is probably going to bite me but in the beginning of our R I gave you time to make up your mind and the freedom. Yes, things have changed alot. I have changed.

(I only decided 10 months in that I was going to make her my GF, I never saw anyone else in that time. Was always looking out of the corner of my eye though).

And I need time to myself and for myself to find out what i really want cos right now i don't know. I have to see my future and currently I can't cos I am being pulled into so many directions.

I reply - Then you want a separation and a divorce. You want to taste the fruits hanging from the tree. I cannot be married to someone like that. I would like you to leave and find yourself with yourself. I do not want to be a part of your life or that type of life that you are asking for. You will thank me one day, but i cannot walk your journey with you.

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So it appears that I am out of limbo. She will need to grovel to want to come back. Hopefully for her, before it is too late.


Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.