What should I be doing? (2)

[Coconut]

Hi, I'm ok Wonka, I just was in a bad place most of yesterday... I made the mistake of going through an anniversary gift that my wife gave me 2 1/2 years ago. It is a small box that she painted and decorated for me, and in the box is 365 small strips of paper, each piece has a reason she loves me, and a letter she wrote which included a statement that these are only some of the reasons she loves me, and will love me forever... It's so hard to believe how much everything has changed since then, and I stayed in bed and cried for about 4 hours...

Anyway, her attitude has done a 180, she is no longer distant and cold, she came home and gave me a real hug (which was very unexpected), initiated small talk and asked if we could go out to dinner as a family... It was a very bi-polar day, with extreme lows and happiness, I'm not sure how I feel about it.. I told her she could come back in the MBR two nights ago, but she hasn't done so, I don't know why.

Sandy, I agree with most of what you said, I still don't feel like she gets the seriousness of the A, but she did give me another apology, saying that she is really sorry that she allowed herself to do what she did, it's not who she is and she feels horrible about it... Also, she went through all of that stuff and my drawer cause my son needed specific pictures for a school project, and I do have pictures in the drawer she went through. And lastly, when she mentioned hurting my S, she was referring to my disengagement, not the one day of ignoring her.. I'm not defending her, I'm just providing info.

Also, something she's doing now on her own, She is updating me when she goes somewhere, she had to go to the station yesterday, and she called when she got there, she called when she was leaving, let me know that she was going to a store, etc... I do feel like she is making an effort, but I still don't like that it's not NC.