No need for apologies here. Everything you wrote has entered my mind at one or a hundred times.

It is much easier helping people from the outside. Our own feelings blind us.

I appreciate your thoughts.

M 37
W 34

T 12
M 8
D 7
S 4

Need break 4/12/15
W no ring 7/7/15

Separate room 4/12/15
Separate living suggested 8/15
W moved out 11/1/15