New night(s)

[kyrie]

A long time has past since this. Since she went to her grandmother's that week, she cut herself. A lot. So grandmother went full force into "protecting her" from us, ignoring that D did that to herself. XH demanded custody, so to prevent further escalation, I granted it. She has been there for 2 months, still cutting herself, still spiraling down in her behavior.

H and I have gone to a counselor a few times. The counselor asked if both of us wanted the marriage. H said he did. I said... IDK. Which kinda shocked me. She asked if we would both continue MC. We both said yes. She asked if both would continue IC. I said yes, he said NO.
Now, since then, he has made a real effort in many things. Even admitted that he had "Sinned against me" and had been very self-absorbed. General statements, but much more than has said until now. HIs attitude towards me has been mostly a 180, though sometimes some old patterns have re-emerged in both of us. Here's the kicker: his porn use continues. Every time he uses it, his attitude towards me is more distant, distracted or frustrated.
At this point, I dunno what to think or do. Most everything seems to point to "Piecing". Is that a fair assessment?