I wanted to provide some words of encouragement and I do so cautiously as I can't really tell you how to stop the anger. But I do want to encourage you to find a way to channel it. Vanilla has some great info as it relates to different types of anger and the benefits/drawbacks of them. There is good anger that can drive you as opposed to weigh you down.
I hope you can have a good day and I am pulling for you my friend.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
We are both in the same state of anger. I received bad news today also. For some reason my luck is going in the wrong direction also.
Keep your head up. You will survive this. Somehow there is hope left in me also that I will too.
I know we are fixers but we can't control everything and must learn to accept the results of our actions.
What comes around goes around. Good does prevail.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
Jim, It is survivable, but at what cost? That is what I'm coming back to constantly. It will be torture to go through the D trial. I was writing out my answers to her L's interrogatories and it is so painful. I just don't see any movement in WW's position especially since I'm funding her spending habits. At S11's last games, I just noticed she bought herself a new pair of $300 sunglasses. To go through a year or two of this will be torture. At the end, I'll probably have to continue funding her for the next decade, if not longer. She'll get child support for S11 for at least 7 more years too.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
Yes let the anger in, let yourself know that you are angry and that it is a feeling that will pass. Do not make any decisions based on this feeling.
Your thinking about your wife and its affecting your mood. You need to focus on you. This is why detaching is so important. This is why looking out for you and your son is so important.
If the picture are triggers I think you should take them down. It will help.
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016
Yes, I've started one already a while ago. Please close this one off
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
