I've been going through this for such a shorter time than most I see on here. I'm worn out and tired. My W is someone I don't recognize. I want normal again. How does everyone keep plugging along? At some point she has to realize I'm going to run out of gas and call it quits.
I'm coming up on 2 months in and 6 weeks out of the house... it's been a roller-coaster, and W is completely unpredictable. She hasn't been wearing rings for over 6 months - I should have seen that as a first sign after initial BD.
W says our R has never been good, lots of things that bug her, yadyadayada, but what I've come to realize it's more about the OM and less about me. I've been a great H for the last 6 months, she even said that (despite the neediness I showed) but I catered to her every whim, complimented her, listened to her etc... she still decided to leave and is now spending more time with OM then with us. That needs to fizzle out and die before any form of R rebuilds.
Any connections we have right now - are her purely checking in or are for her benefit to be with the Family. I endure some of it as I want to show her I'm still "there" and have an opportunity to validate her, but limit the emotional connections and try as much as possible to not let her call all the shots.
As for family, agree with Sandi - she'll put on a show much as my W has around friends. I have a a similar sich coming up with a relative of mine visiting but she's already out of the house, so will be interesting to see how she acts - as of now she hasn't really told anyone we are separated (although I have), going to be hard to dance around that when he's staying with us for 2 weeks.
Me: 40 W: 45 T: 13, M: 11 1 D: 9
Suspect A 6/15 ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16 EA/PA Discovered 3/16 EA admitted 3/16 W Moved out 4/16 W opens R talk and says A over 1/17
